O Allah! This is my division in what I have control over…

The Mother of the Believers ‘Aaishah bint al-Siddeeq narrated that:

أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم كَانَ يَقْسِمُ بَيْنَ نِسَائِهِ فَيَعْدِلُ وَيَقُولُ ‏”‏ اللَّهُمَّ هَذِهِ قِسْمَتِي فِيمَا أَمْلِكُ فَلاَ تَلُمْنِي فِيمَا تَمْلِكُ وَلاَ أَمْلِكُ ‏”‏ ‏.‏

The Prophet (ﷺ) would divide (his time) equally between his wives and he said: “O Allah! This is my division in what I have control over, so do not punish me for what You control and over which I do not have control.

[al-Tirmidhi #1140, Saheeh. Abu Dawood #2134. Ibn Maajah #1971. Ibn Hibban declared it to be Saheeh” (#4192), as did al-Haakim (2/187), and al-Dhahabi agreed.]

Abu ‘Eesaa al-Tirmidhi, after mentioning the hadeeth and some discussion of its isnaad, he then commented:

وَمَعْنَى قَوْلِهِ ‏”‏ لاَ تَلُمْنِي فِيمَا تَمْلِكُ وَلاَ أَمْلِكُ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ إِنَّمَا يَعْنِي بِهِ الْحُبَّ وَالْمَوَدَّةَ كَذَا فَسَّرَهُ بَعْضُ أَهْلِ الْعِلْمِ ‏.‏

And as for his saying, “Do not punish me for what You control and over which I do not have control” – he meant love and affection; this is how it was explained by some of the people of knowledge.

Sheikh al-Mubarakfoori, in his commentary on Jaami’ al-Tirmidhi, wrote:

هن زوجات الرجل ؛ لأن كل واحدة تتضرر بالأخرى بالغيرة والقسم ، كذا في المجمع .

They are the wives of men, because each one is affected by the others and jealous of the division [of the husband’s time, money, affection, etc], and they are as such collectively.

قوله : ( كان يقسم بين نسائه فيعدل ) استدل به من قال أن القسم كان واجبا عليه ، وذهب بعض المفسرين إلى أنه لا يجب عليه ، واستدلوا بقوله تعالى ترجي من تشاء منهن الآية ، وذلك من خصائصه ( ويقول اللهم هذه قسمتي فيما أملك ) أي : أقدر عليه ( فلا تلمني ) أي : لا تعاتبني ، ولا تؤاخذني ( فيما تملك ، ولا أملك ) أي : من زيادة المحبة والميل ، قال ابن الهمام : ظاهره أن ما عداه مما هو داخل تحت ملكه وقدرته يجب التسوية فيه ، ومنه عدد الوطآت والقبلات والتسوية فيهما غير لازمة إجماعا .  .

The statement, “he would divide (his time) equally” – this is cited by those who say that the division [of a husband’s time, money, affection, etc.] is obligatory upon him, and some of the mufassireen [commentators of the Qur’an] say it is not obligatory upon him, and they cite Allah’s statement “You, [O Muhammad], may put aside whom you will of them…” [33:51], and that is something specific to him. “And he said: “O Allah! This is my division in what I have control over” – meaning: what I have power over – “so do not punish me” – meaning: do not blame me or seize me (in punishment) – “for what You control and over which I do not have control” – meaning: from my excess of love and inclination (towards one over another). Ibn al-Humaam said, “It is clear that everything else which falls under ones power and ability, then he must be equitable therein, and this includes pillow talk and kisses and equity therein is not absolutely necessary.”

After some discussion of the takhreej of the hadeeth, Mubarakfoori continues:

قوله : ( كذا فسره بعض أهل العلم ) أخرج البيهقي من طريق علي بن طلحة عن ابن عباس في قوله : ولن تستطيعوا أن تعدلوا بين النساء قال : في الحب والجماع ، وعند عبيدة بن عمرو السلماني مثله

His statement, “this is how it was explained by some of the people of knowledge” comes from al-Bayhaqi through the route of Talhah from Ibn ‘Abbaas in his explanation of Allah’s statement, “And you will never be able to do perfect justice between wives…” [4:129] – he said, “in terms of affection and sexual intercourse,” and ‘Ubaydah ibn ‘Amr and al-Salmaani gave similar explanations.

[Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi p. 247-248]

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