The Marriage of Umm Salamah to the Prophet (ﷺ)

Imam Ahmad recorded that Umm Salamah narrated:

أتاني أبو سلمة يوما من عند رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ، فقال : لقد سمعت من رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قولا سررت به

Once, Abu Salamah came back after he was with Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) and said, “I heard Allah’s Messenger recite a statement that made me delighted.”

قال :  لا يصيب أحدا من المسلمين مصيبة فيسترجع عند مصيبته ، ثم يقول : اللهم أجرني في مصيبتي واخلف لي خيرا منها ، إلا فعل ذلك به

He said, “No Muslim is struck with an affliction and then says Istirja’ (إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ) when the affliction strikes, and then he says, ‘O Allah! reward me for my loss and give me what is better than it’, except that Allah will do that for him.”

قالت أم سلمة : فحفظت ذلك منه ، فلما توفي أبو سلمة استرجعت وقلت : اللهم أجرني في مصيبتي واخلف لي خيرا منه ، ثم رجعت إلى نفسي . فقلت : من أين لي خير من أبي سلمة ؟ فلما انقضت عدتي استأذن علي رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم وأنا أدبغ إهابا لي فغسلت يدي من القرظ وأذنت له ، فوضعت له وسادة أدم حشوها ليف ، فقعد عليها ، فخطبني إلى نفسي ، فلما فرغ من مقالته قلت : يا رسول الله ، ما بي ألا يكون بك الرغبة ، ولكني امرأة ، في غيرة شديدة ، فأخاف أن ترى مني شيئا يعذبني الله به ، وأنا امرأة قد دخلت في السن ، وأنا ذات عيال

Umm Salamah said: So I memorized these words. When Abu Salamah died I said istirja’ and said, “O Allah, compensate me for my loss and give me what is better than it.” I then thought about it and said, “who is better than Abu Salamah?” When my iddah finished, Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) asked for permission to see me while I was dyeing a skin that I had. I washed my hands, gave him permission to enter and handed him a pillow, and he sat on it. He then asked me for marriage and when he finished his speech, I said, “O Messenger of Allah! It is not that I do not want you, but I am very jealous and I fear that you might experience some wrong mannerism from me for which Allah would punish me. And I am old and have children.”

فقال :  أما ما ذكرت من الغيرة فسوف يذهبها الله ، عز وجل عنك . وأما ما ذكرت من السن فقد أصابني مثل الذي أصابك ، وأما ما ذكرت من العيال فإنما عيالك عيالي

He (ﷺ) then said, “As for the jealousy that you mentioned, Allah the Exalted will remove it from you. As for being old as you mentioned, I have suffered what you have suffered. And as for what what you mentioned of having children, then verily your children are my children.”

 قالت : فقد سلمت لرسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم . فتزوجها رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ، فقالت أم سلمة بعد : أبدلني الله بأبي سلمة خيرا منه ، رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم

She said, “I have submitted to Allah’s Messenger.” Allah’s Messenger married her and Umm Salamah said later, “Allah compensated me for Abu Salamah with someone better than him: the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ).”

[Ahmad 4:27, Tafsir ibn Kathir 1:447]

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